Dreams and Tomorrows

We've all been guilty of putting things off and using the phrase "i'll do it tomorrow..." but just like "i'll start the diet on Monday..." - Tomorrow never comes.

When I was 13 years old my Nannie was diagnosed with cancer. It was a massive blow for the family as the original diagnosis was sore throat and an ear ache. Within a year we'd gone from smiles to funerals. She was such a beautiful kind soul and was taken way in her early 50s.

My Grandad, who has always been my hero, gave up work to care for my Nannie. He was such a hard working man and even at my young age I could tell how much he loved my Nannie. Fast forward 12 years and i'm sitting on the sofa with Gramps telling him i'm going to start my own business. Everyone else told me I was mad, asked if I was scared or were not sure if i was serious. My Gramps on the other hand told me that I had a big decision to make - Would I be the boss who was a friend or not... Because once I made up my mind this would be the basis of my career. The way I treated others would lay out my future. The guy was a genius. During the same conversation he told me that he was proud of me. I had to try not to cry. He then explained that when he was younger he always dreamed of opening his own construction company but for reasons I won't say here, he never "got round to it". I could tell that he was so happy that i'd decided to follow the dream he never did. At the end of the conversation he offered me access to what would be my inheritance. I took £300 and headed off in to the hard world of self employment.

Sadly my Grandad passed away in 2012, at the age of 70, never realising his full potential or achieving his dreams. I vowed that I would never do the same. For myself and for him.

My Nannie was taken away young - A massive reminder that our tomorrows are not guaranteed.
My Grandad lived with regret at not following his dream - A huge reminder that we are here only once and we should make the mistakes, take the risks and do the things we want to do. I was lucky to have an amazing relationship with my Nannie and Gramps and i'll always use them to guide me through life.

Please don't make the same mistakes. Do what you want to do - FOR YOU!
You'll be much happier on your death bed laughing about the time you had to live on baked beans for a month because you took a risk rather than playing it safe. You're also not guaranteed a tomorrow so start living for today. I don't want to depress you all just before xmas but I do want to make you think before you plan your 2016.

Make it count.
Much Love
Dee xx

Twitterz - The Facebook

Just believe in yourself a little more.

"It makes me sad that some people don't see how truly great they are and how they've made so many people happy by what they do." - a recent Facebook status i wrote on my private page. 

I'd spent the day with a truly remarkable gentleman. Someone who for years, along with other family members, had followed his work and was honoured enough to meet many years later. I'm now lucky enough to call him a friend, someone I trust and someone I like having in my life.

After a couple of hours of telling each other we don't push ourselves to our full potential it dawned on me that this person, someone who I admired before I even met, someone who is known to many people, who has given and sacrificed - has the same problem as me! From my side of the fence, if he agrees or not i'm not sure, we are both a little lost. 

Now, we know where we need to get to, or where we'd like to be. We know we have the strength to do it. We have the profile / platforms / contacts to help us. There is just something we're missing or we've lost sight of. We're going on the hunt. 

I think this applies to a lot of people in general. We might be scared of success, of failure, of trying or some other excuse but our main obstacles we put in our own way are made by us. It's easy for us to build an obstacle on our own, as humans we're great at that but I can tell you now, you're going to need back up to help pull those obstacles down. 

My suggestion - build a team. people who you can really trust, people who know and understand you and all your strengths, weaknesses and quirks. Go out with a, metaphorically speaking, sledge hammer and go smash your way to success.

My friend and I are doing that next year. The rest of 2015 will be used to plot, plan and scheme. We're going to help push and make each other accountable. I'm looking forward to seeing what happens, even if it does involve getting a size 9 boot up my arse. 

Until Next Time
Be You
Miss Make It Happen

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London - The Greatest City In The World.

There - I've said it. London is the greatest city on Earth.

I've lived in London all my life and I love it. I live in greater (east) London so I still get the buzz but i'm far enough out so i get some trees and grass scattered around me. I'm about 13 miles from the centre.

It came to my attention a couple of years ago that even though i like to travel abroad and all over the UK, i was still a tourist in my own city. So now I spend more time looking around and seeing London for it really is.

At the weekend it was my friends birthday. We decided that we'd wait until the Monday and have a day out. We went to a great little cafe in West London for Afternoon Tea and Fizz. It was a great start to the day. If you fancy afternoon tea at the Urban Meadow Cafe click HERE. Great selection of tea, cakes and sandwiches.

Next up we decided to take a walk through the park. As we entered the gate we came across the Santander Hire Bikes - AKA Boris Bikes. Neither of us had been on a bike since we were kids so we decided to give it a go. For £2 you get full 24 hour access. Neither of us are gym bunnies but we really enjoyed it and 6 miles later we were in SE.London ready for our evening entertainment. I was rather impressed that i didn't get squashed by a bus although there was a moment that I lost my cool with a Ferrari.

Just up the road from Borough there is a little shop that opens up out back to the most wonderful cinema EVER! Click HERE to learn more about Roxy Bar and Screen. you start off in a bar and then through some thick red, velvet curtains you're taken to the main cinema room. Instead of chairs there are rows on sofas and instead of popcorn you are served dinner (3 yummy courses in our case) direct to your lap. They only show one film per night so check them out before you.

We biked back to Tower of London after the film and just as we were crossing the big junction, my knee gave way. A re-occuring injury decided to raise its ugly head. game over on the bike front but still a great day all in all.

If you're ever in London, please make sure you stop and look around. Don't seek out the main attractions, look in to the back streets and that's where you'll find the real gems.

Much Love
Dee
Miss Make It Happen

Enough is enough

Everyone has a tipping point.

You know the point where you snap, can't take a situation anymore and you say 

"ENOUGH IS ENOUGH"

You don't need to feel bad about giving up on someone or something. If I'm honest, it's probably kinder if you do. Let the person fend for themselves without you picking up the pieces.

Don't get me wrong, if your friend or family member is stuck in a series of unfortunate events then yes, of course you're going to be there for them for however long it takes. I'm talking about the neg heads who refuse to walk away from a bad situation, or keep going back to a situation that is wrong. 

YOU CANNOT HELP THEM! 

It doesn't matter how hard you want them to change they're not going to. They constantly let you down and they can swear until they are blue in the face that they won't do it again but you know deep down that it's only a matter of time. 

By protecting them and picking up the pieces you can be doing more harm then good. Believe me, I'm talking from first hand experience. I don't just mean harming them. Your actions of protecting them can also lead to your relationships breaking down. Well meaning friends and family will tell you to walk away yet every time you stay to pick up more pieces, people start to wash their hands of you. You then become the problem. 

It's ok to walk away from people and situations. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. It means you tried and now you understand that some people are beyond any normal help. It'll be hard but your life will be a lot happier. 

So yes, I'm giving you permission to let go. 

Right now you're probably thinking 'who the hell does she think she is' but you'll thank me later. 

This life is YOURS. It's time to live it for YOU, not anybody else. 

Until next time, keep smiling.

Miss Make It Happen

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The Importance of being kind.

It's been a great week at MIH Towers and do you know why? The kindness of people. 

I've had so much help, love and support recently that I wanted this blog to let people know that it hasn't gone unnotice. I'm a massive believer in karma. Business karma, life karma, love karma. You get what you deserve. Put out in to the world what you want to receive. Never underestimate the power of a thank you, a "would you like help", a hug. To you they may seem insignificant but to that person, who may be going through their own hell, it could mean the world. 

People, however strong they think they are, need support sometimes. A cheerful hug I received on Friday meant so much more. It was just a normal friendly hug but to me it was just what I needed at that time. It made me feel safe. Safe is not a place I visit often. I paid that hug forward to my mum the following day. 

I've been on twitter for a couple of years now, I jump from account to account creating tweets, building brands and playing my alter egos. From the MIH account, to my personal account, client accounts... I become a difference person. I'm what the account needs me to be. AND I LOVE IT! 

I slipped up recently, I forgot that everyone hadn't been on twitter for as long as me, they didn't have the large interaction circle, they didn't know the ropes. So when someone said "twitter is sh*t, I don't know why you bother" not only was I shocked, I didn't get it! Then I remembered my first months on twitter. It can be a scary place. 

"Will they mind if I follow them?" "Will they mind if I interrupt the conversation" "who should I follow?" 

The truth is, we're brought up to behave, be quiet, don't interrupt conversations, speak when you're spoken to. Twitter throws all those rules out of the window. You need to be assertive, confident and get your point across. SEND THE PIC OF THE CAT WEARING A BIKINI - Do it, be brave. 

The more you use twitter, the better the experience. Yeah, you'll come across some serious neg heads but that's what is so great about the 'block' button. As a whole, twitter is a great platform for personal and business growth. 

Well I'm keeping it short but sweet this time around...

Do something selfless this week... Be there for someone, even if they don't ask you to be.

Until next time

Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

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