It's not always an attack

Did you know that it's not always a racist, sexist, homophobic, religious attack?

Some people are just arseholes and deserve a kick in the butt!

Why on earth do we always have to look for an excuse for someone being bad? Maybe the man or woman is just a bad person. It has nothing to do with their race, religion, colour or geographical location.

We all know - White men can't jump or every black guy is going to mug your gran, right? wrong!

We've started to build these stupid social stereotypes that make everyone seem the same as their similar looking counterpart.

I'm from East London. In my little corner of London we joke that if you're 30, have a job and no kids, then you are weird. Jeez, If you hit 20 without getting knocked up you're doing well. It's not the greatest of places any more but wow, does it come with a lot of history.

Anyway, back to my point. Why do we need to put people in to a group before hating on them? It is our stupidity of doing this that allows our media to scare monger. If you sit and think for 2 seconds before declaring all Muslims terrorists, you'll realise how ridiculous it all sounds.

Lets all make a pact right now, if someone is an arse - you can say mean stuff. If they are not - Then don't. Actually, don't be mean to anyone, it only fuels their idiotic behaviour and creates ripple effects for other people.

If we're all nice, the world will improve. Not only for us, but for future generations.

Think before you start to tar people with the same brush. Not all white people support the KKK, not all germans are nazis, Not all muslims are terrorists, etc etc - you get the picture. If you have to judge, judge a person on their direct relationship to how they treat YOU.

Until next time
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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Commercial Sheep & Valentines Day

My last proper relationship was for 6 years.  During that time we didn't really buy in to all the hearts and flowers of Valentines Day.  We'd usually get each other a card but thats about it. It wasn't a big deal and we didn't waste money because society and the commercial giants demand it.

I've been single, 4 years next month. (Wow time really does fly when you're having fun!) and I've realised that as a single person I spend more time, energy and money on celebrating Valentines Day. how weird is that?

A day that was designed and aimed at couples has created a sub culture for the singletons.  When I was in a relationship I wouldn't have been thinking about ValDay but this year, it's taken 3 of us, several conversations to plan a whole day dedicated to being single.

Seriously, it all feels a little bit weird if you ask me. I'm off to spend the day wandering around London, getting involved with Chinese New Year parade, other random London related stuff and then off to our favourite Chinese for a romantic, or not so much, dinner for 3.

Now, I like spending time with my friends, I just kind of wish we'd do it another day. One of the other 360 odd days this year that doesn't have a "couples" related theme.

Until next time....

Much love,

Miss Make It Happen.

Self Employment, Holidays and body image. *panic panic panic*

I've been on holiday recently, my family got together to see my cousin (pictured below) get married. It was fab.

Whilst I was away I pretty much stepped away from work totally and spent some time concentrating on me. It's been about 14 years since i've been able to switch off properly. At first It was horrible. I kept eyeing my phone suspiciously, wondering what was going on back home.

After a couple of days I realised that if the world was coming to an end someone would pick up the phone and call me. I didn't need to worry about emails or social media, they would all be there when I got back.

As I started to relax, I realised that I looked at myself in the mirror more. Strange I know but its true. At first, It was glimpses of myself in a bikini. I didn't want to spend too much time looking, I am most definitely not beach body ready. The more i stepped away from work stresses and social media the more i stopped to look at myself. After a few days I was standing in front of the mirror having a good old nose. My views at first were critical of myself - big thighs, chubby belly, dark circles under eyes etc etc etc. Towards the end of the end of the holiday I was shocked to realise that I was now looking at myself through different eyes. Instead of focussing on my chubby belly, I saw a curvy hourglass waist. Instead of big thighs, I saw a curvy butt. And the subtle tan I now had was making me look healthier and less tired.

This got me thinking, do work stresses and social media really have an impact on the way we see ourselves? Do we judge ourselves more when we carry a weight on our shoulders? It's quite possibly true.

I've decided that as with immediate effect that i'll be taking a day off, at least, every week. no work, no emails, no social media and if i can blag it, no contact with people. 24 hours to learn to love myself, to read that book that's been on the shelf for the last 3 years, to eat what I want, take a nap and just be me. Do you dare to do the same?

Until Next Time
Look after yourselves
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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London - The Greatest City In The World.

There - I've said it. London is the greatest city on Earth.

I've lived in London all my life and I love it. I live in greater (east) London so I still get the buzz but i'm far enough out so i get some trees and grass scattered around me. I'm about 13 miles from the centre.

It came to my attention a couple of years ago that even though i like to travel abroad and all over the UK, i was still a tourist in my own city. So now I spend more time looking around and seeing London for it really is.

At the weekend it was my friends birthday. We decided that we'd wait until the Monday and have a day out. We went to a great little cafe in West London for Afternoon Tea and Fizz. It was a great start to the day. If you fancy afternoon tea at the Urban Meadow Cafe click HERE. Great selection of tea, cakes and sandwiches.

Next up we decided to take a walk through the park. As we entered the gate we came across the Santander Hire Bikes - AKA Boris Bikes. Neither of us had been on a bike since we were kids so we decided to give it a go. For £2 you get full 24 hour access. Neither of us are gym bunnies but we really enjoyed it and 6 miles later we were in SE.London ready for our evening entertainment. I was rather impressed that i didn't get squashed by a bus although there was a moment that I lost my cool with a Ferrari.

Just up the road from Borough there is a little shop that opens up out back to the most wonderful cinema EVER! Click HERE to learn more about Roxy Bar and Screen. you start off in a bar and then through some thick red, velvet curtains you're taken to the main cinema room. Instead of chairs there are rows on sofas and instead of popcorn you are served dinner (3 yummy courses in our case) direct to your lap. They only show one film per night so check them out before you.

We biked back to Tower of London after the film and just as we were crossing the big junction, my knee gave way. A re-occuring injury decided to raise its ugly head. game over on the bike front but still a great day all in all.

If you're ever in London, please make sure you stop and look around. Don't seek out the main attractions, look in to the back streets and that's where you'll find the real gems.

Much Love
Dee
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We've made a mistake, lets go back...

I was talking to a good friend of mine tonight and the conversation wandered in to science and space. Not literally, because we'd both be dead, but you get the point.

We began to ponder weither or not there is an end to space and what is beyond it. As you'll have learnt at school, space is a vacuum. a big bunch of nothing. This lead to me pointing out that maybe all the laws of nature could be wrong.

Bare with me, I have a business related point at the end!

Think about it for a minute.. Every law of nature, weither it be scientific, physical, natural etc have been determined and interprited by man. Sir Isaac Newton was chilling out under a tree one day and an apple fell on his head, after a bit of thinking, and a few experiments he came up with Newtons Law of Universal Gravitation. Brilliant! We have an answer for why stuff bonks us on the head... dig around a bit deeper and we understand (Thanks to Sir Newton) that the moon is involved, acceleration and velocity join in and there's a whole gravity party going on, on planet earth.

This is obviously just a small part of the laws of nature. This happened in the 1600's, before most of us were born and a little after the dinosaurs died out.

My point is, we've moved on... a lot! Look at how long we thought the world was flat! then we discovered it wasn't and all sorts of new and wonderful things happened! So wouldn't it be smart if we questioned all these laws? I believe we are powerful beyond our imaginations and we're dumbing ourselves down because we accept other peoples interpritation to a discovery because it's worked for 400 or so years.

So my business point... Because it's worked for the last 4 decades doesnt meant that it is right for your business now and taking your business forward. We need to challenge what we know and change the norm in order to push forward in to the new and exciting. It's going to be scary, we'll mess up, we'll make mistakes, but thats how Newton became a legend and how, 100's of years after his death i'm writing about some dude being hit on the head with an apple.  GO QUESTION STUFF!!

Big thanks to my friend Sam for the great conversation and helping to write this blog. Sam is a VA, you should check her out at www.sharpva.co.uk - she has the MMIH seal of approval :)

Until next time
keep smiling
Miss Make It Happen
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Tip Of The Iceberg

I was recently asked to guest blog for a company in Australia and not only was I honoured to be asked but I absolutely jumped at the chance!

I've decided that rather then writing a blog now, I would just give you all a link to my guest blog...

I should probably point out at this point that it is rather hard hitting and will be hard for some people to swallow.  This blog was not written with the intention of hurting anyone.

My Guest Blog

Much Love, Always

Miss Make It Happen

Life Decisions

In business i'm good at making decisions quickly. Snap, Crackle, Pop - it's done. One of my strongest skills is to look at a bad situation and be able fix it. Quickly. Both for myself and other people.

Put me in a personal situation and my brain just doesn't work in the same way. Seriously, you would think I have a twin. One with a super brain and one with fluff for brains. I very much use my male brain for business and my female brain for personal decisions.

My mum, bless her, was once quoted saying to me "Dionne, you spend all day being a business woman and then you turn in to an idiot of an evening". Truth is, I spend all day making decision for myself and other people that I like releasing my inner child of an evening. If I dont, I start to get stressed, angry and thats when I start making the wrong decisions during the day. I'm sure my clients are happy that I fell out of a tree a couple of months ago... at least the decisions I make for them are safe and sound. 

So why can't I make personal life decisions the way I make business ones? Because i'm human. I have a heart as well as a brain. Some people will tell you its possible my heart is made of stone/ice, i'm not bothered by it. Business, I can afford to be cold and even cruel and clinical when making the decisions. When its about my personal life the heart gets involved. The internal battle between brain and heart kicks in and I start getting stressed, my eyes start to leak, I become moody. Summed up, I turn in to a woman.

Example -

I once decided that I wasn't getting enough out of a contract for the work I was putting in. So after a few emails of them telling me there is nothing they can do, I rocked up to their office (albeit with chocolates and wine) and said "it's over". I'd been working with this client for just over 10 years. it was a £150K a year contract. Snap, Crackle, Pop - Done. It's "Business".

Go out for a coffee with someone, find out he has a girlfriend, feel awkward about the conversation you've just been having, lose sleep over the decision of deleting him off of Facebook!!

In both examples, I was going to upset someone. In both examples i would lose something out of the situation. One was a quick and painless because only the brain was involved. The other.... well we al know what happens when we let the heart loose on a situation.

Until Next Time...

Miss Make It Happen
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The BIG life decision

I've recently been talking to various different people about life choices.

You know the ones "should I have children" "will blowing £80k on a car really effect my future that much?" "Have I got time for a Boyfriend?"

The consequences on these decision is huge! I've pretty much decided I'll never have kids. It's not me. I don't drive so there is no reason to buy the Ferrari and I just haven't got time to have a BF at the minute. Why? My friend summed it up perfectly "why on earth do you want a BF? You're married to your work and lifestyle". Game. Set. Match to him. 

It's true and the consequences of marrying my job is huge, I just didn't see it until now. The likelihood is I'm going to end up in a big house, surrounded by friends with no one to love. And it's sad to say but I'm ok with that. Now I can already hear the screams of "but you're only (almost) 30!" 

I'm actually torn on this at the minute. I AM ok with it but the situation is really sad. Who knows, I could be hit by a bus tomorrow and the future will be short lived. Or I could meet the man who will change it all... Right now, I'm going back to work....

Bare in mind the ripple effect of your decisions.... Is it too late for you to change? It's going to take some sort of natural disaster at my end...

Think about it...

Until next time

Miss Make It Happen

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It Feels Like I've Known You Forever...

Two things happened to me yesterday that really stood out.

Firstly, I met up with an old friend who I haven't spoken to for over a year. We'd had a falling out some time back and we were meeting to build bridges. When I saw him, it felt like the past had never happened. We were meant to be friends and be involved in each others lives. Life is too short to hold grudges and keep people in the dog house. Turns out we'd been absent from each others lives during a massive turning point for both of us. If we had stayed friends would we have helped each other or been a hindrance, who knows? The important point is we were now talking again. Unfortunately, we only had about 90 minutes to catch up but in that time I couldn't help stare at my friend. His smile, his animated hand gestures, his passion for his work. He'd been through a lot and he was now happy. In fact, we were both happy. It didn't matter what happened in the past, My friend was happy and that's the important part. I'm happy for him. (Lots of 'Happy' in those last few sentences, did you pick up on that?)
If you are holding a grudge against an old friend, ask yourself this - If they died tomorrow, would you feel sad / miss them? If the answer is yes, pick up the phone and make amends. My friendship was salvaged because I received a text message that simply said 'I Miss You'. Do something today, before it's too late.

Secondly, I had a dinner booked. 2 of the people I knew and had previously met before, and the 3rd I had only ever spoken to on social media. We'd talked a lot and got to know each other but I was somewhat surprised how natural our friendship was after meeting for the first time. It was as if we'd known each other for years. Never underestimate the importance of building relationships over social media.Not everyone is a keyboard warrior / stalker / rapist. It really takes the awkwardness out of initial meetings!

Until Next Time,
Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

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Enough is enough

Everyone has a tipping point.

You know the point where you snap, can't take a situation anymore and you say 

"ENOUGH IS ENOUGH"

You don't need to feel bad about giving up on someone or something. If I'm honest, it's probably kinder if you do. Let the person fend for themselves without you picking up the pieces.

Don't get me wrong, if your friend or family member is stuck in a series of unfortunate events then yes, of course you're going to be there for them for however long it takes. I'm talking about the neg heads who refuse to walk away from a bad situation, or keep going back to a situation that is wrong. 

YOU CANNOT HELP THEM! 

It doesn't matter how hard you want them to change they're not going to. They constantly let you down and they can swear until they are blue in the face that they won't do it again but you know deep down that it's only a matter of time. 

By protecting them and picking up the pieces you can be doing more harm then good. Believe me, I'm talking from first hand experience. I don't just mean harming them. Your actions of protecting them can also lead to your relationships breaking down. Well meaning friends and family will tell you to walk away yet every time you stay to pick up more pieces, people start to wash their hands of you. You then become the problem. 

It's ok to walk away from people and situations. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. It means you tried and now you understand that some people are beyond any normal help. It'll be hard but your life will be a lot happier. 

So yes, I'm giving you permission to let go. 

Right now you're probably thinking 'who the hell does she think she is' but you'll thank me later. 

This life is YOURS. It's time to live it for YOU, not anybody else. 

Until next time, keep smiling.

Miss Make It Happen

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The Importance of being kind.

It's been a great week at MIH Towers and do you know why? The kindness of people. 

I've had so much help, love and support recently that I wanted this blog to let people know that it hasn't gone unnotice. I'm a massive believer in karma. Business karma, life karma, love karma. You get what you deserve. Put out in to the world what you want to receive. Never underestimate the power of a thank you, a "would you like help", a hug. To you they may seem insignificant but to that person, who may be going through their own hell, it could mean the world. 

People, however strong they think they are, need support sometimes. A cheerful hug I received on Friday meant so much more. It was just a normal friendly hug but to me it was just what I needed at that time. It made me feel safe. Safe is not a place I visit often. I paid that hug forward to my mum the following day. 

I've been on twitter for a couple of years now, I jump from account to account creating tweets, building brands and playing my alter egos. From the MIH account, to my personal account, client accounts... I become a difference person. I'm what the account needs me to be. AND I LOVE IT! 

I slipped up recently, I forgot that everyone hadn't been on twitter for as long as me, they didn't have the large interaction circle, they didn't know the ropes. So when someone said "twitter is sh*t, I don't know why you bother" not only was I shocked, I didn't get it! Then I remembered my first months on twitter. It can be a scary place. 

"Will they mind if I follow them?" "Will they mind if I interrupt the conversation" "who should I follow?" 

The truth is, we're brought up to behave, be quiet, don't interrupt conversations, speak when you're spoken to. Twitter throws all those rules out of the window. You need to be assertive, confident and get your point across. SEND THE PIC OF THE CAT WEARING A BIKINI - Do it, be brave. 

The more you use twitter, the better the experience. Yeah, you'll come across some serious neg heads but that's what is so great about the 'block' button. As a whole, twitter is a great platform for personal and business growth. 

Well I'm keeping it short but sweet this time around...

Do something selfless this week... Be there for someone, even if they don't ask you to be.

Until next time

Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

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