Second Chances

I'm not usually one for second chances. I am however one to hold a life long grudge, even if it's to my own detriment. It's not a quality that I admire in myself and to be honest i'm working on changing my outlook on chances and grudges.

I think i'm going soft in my old age. That or i've just started to realise that not everyone is perfect like me, and you might just make mistakes every now and then ;) My gramps was one for a grudge. If you got put on his naughty list, you stayed there. If i'm honest, I think I might have got it from him. I've got a lot of myself from my Gramps.

So, back to second chances. Recently, I was put in a position that made me think and question my own reasoning. A long time ago I put my trust into someone and I got burned. It was bad enough that my friends also carried the burden too. Years later our paths crossed again and I realised how much of a grudge I was carrying. I also realised 2 other things. 1) How heavy this burden had been to carry for all these years and 2) how much I didn't want it any more. I was done with the grudge, the hate and if i'm honest, I wanted this person back in to my life.

A friend of mine had recently lost her husband, someone who I considered a friend too. Scrap that, they always have and always will be like family to me. It made me realise, at least reinforced, my belief that life is too short. So we made the decision there and then, after visiting J's grave, that I would contact the person and we'd talk it through. Before we met up, I contacted the friends that were there to pick up the pieces the first time. It wasn't a great conversation but they agreed that it was my choice and whatever happened they had my back.

I also carried out a basic online survey. 50% of people said Yes, They give second chances. 14% said Nope and 36% said it depended on the situation. Thats 86% of people who would give, or at least consider giving someone a second chance. I was a bit shocked it was so high.

So, I bit the bullet and hoped I wasn't about to make another big mistake. Turns out there really are 3 sides to every story and after long discussions, honesty and a bit of a laugh the past was finally buried and boy does it feel good.

I'll be making a conscious effort to spot the grudges i've been holding for too long from now on. I'll either talk to the person or just let them go.

No one wakes up in the morning and decides they'll intentionally hurt someone. sometimes a mistake is just a mistake. Surely, everyone deserves a second chance?

I'd love to hear your thoughts on second chances.

As Always,
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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Un-Social Media

My friend invited me over for the weekend for a few days of fun, Fizz and hot tub madness.

We're currently sat at a table, at 10:30pm, both in front of our computers, talking to each other.... on FACEBOOK! seriously, has the world gone mad, or it is just us?

We've been so sucked in to being 'social' that we've forgotten what the word actually means. Naturally, I thought i would correct our bad ways and erm... write this blog.

A friend of mine likes 'digital down time' and is currently on a week long 'digital detox'. I seriously take my hat off to him. I tried it once and if i'm honest after about 6 hours I would have happily given my right leg to gain access to the bitter sweet world that is social media. You can read his blog HERE

The very thing that is making our world connected and smaller is in actual fact destroying our actual conversation and 1-2-1 human interaction.

You've no doubt heard this rant before from someone else so i'll spare you anymore blah blah blah but answer me this...

Could you do 24hours (or longer) without any digital interaction?

Comment below or tweet me @MIH_Dee and let me know. If you say you can, lets set ourselves a challenge. losers donate £$ to charity. Are you in?

Much Love
Dee
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BIG ANNOUNCEMENT - I'm going to call my baby.... Cucumber.

With the recent news that Katie 'Jordan' Price took 6 weeks to name her baby and then come to a final decision it should be called .... Bunny.... I'm left in a state of sympathy (for the child) and anger (towards the mother)

Someone I know had a baby and unfortunatly during the pregnancy the father died. In honour of the father the mother wanted the daughters middle name to be simply one letter. The inital of the fathers first name. This was not allowed. YET we can just pick a random animal and that is an acceptable name for our child.

As a woman, of a certain age, I was a big fan of the Friends sitcom. and i can't lie, after the Princess Consuela Banana Hammock episode, we all thought about changing our name to that..or crap bag, Just for a laugh. But to actually name a poor defenceless child BUNNY... well that just takes the absolute piss.

What actually goes through parents minds when naming their children these stupid names!? Any of you that know me properly will know i'm happy doing my own weird thing with weirder people. I'm not one to follow the rules but this is not one of those areas that I would mess with. Although, after typing the title to this blog, I hope that one day, I meet someone called Cucumber. It just wont be my own child....

Much Love,

Miss Make It Happen

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It Feels Like I've Known You Forever...

Two things happened to me yesterday that really stood out.

Firstly, I met up with an old friend who I haven't spoken to for over a year. We'd had a falling out some time back and we were meeting to build bridges. When I saw him, it felt like the past had never happened. We were meant to be friends and be involved in each others lives. Life is too short to hold grudges and keep people in the dog house. Turns out we'd been absent from each others lives during a massive turning point for both of us. If we had stayed friends would we have helped each other or been a hindrance, who knows? The important point is we were now talking again. Unfortunately, we only had about 90 minutes to catch up but in that time I couldn't help stare at my friend. His smile, his animated hand gestures, his passion for his work. He'd been through a lot and he was now happy. In fact, we were both happy. It didn't matter what happened in the past, My friend was happy and that's the important part. I'm happy for him. (Lots of 'Happy' in those last few sentences, did you pick up on that?)
If you are holding a grudge against an old friend, ask yourself this - If they died tomorrow, would you feel sad / miss them? If the answer is yes, pick up the phone and make amends. My friendship was salvaged because I received a text message that simply said 'I Miss You'. Do something today, before it's too late.

Secondly, I had a dinner booked. 2 of the people I knew and had previously met before, and the 3rd I had only ever spoken to on social media. We'd talked a lot and got to know each other but I was somewhat surprised how natural our friendship was after meeting for the first time. It was as if we'd known each other for years. Never underestimate the importance of building relationships over social media.Not everyone is a keyboard warrior / stalker / rapist. It really takes the awkwardness out of initial meetings!

Until Next Time,
Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

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How It All Began

Miss Make It Happen was born in March 2014.

The idea first started back in 2013 when a business event I attended didn't quite go to plan. The venue wasn't open, there was no furniture, no food and no COFFEE! I happened to be at the event a hour & a half early and stepped in to help. By the time the event was due to start everything was in place. The people attending the event were none the wiser and everyone was happy.

I was told that day that I had a male brain, that i'm a quick thinker and without my logical thinking things may not have worked so well. It was nice to hear but I didnt think much of it, I've always been the type of person to look at something and be able to fix it or see a solution. Apart from the Rubiks Cube, I've never been able to do one of those. Anyway, Months went past and I helped several other people out of sticky situations and pickles. Some people needed advice or ideas, some needed help with social media accounts, others needed help with recruitment. I should probably point out that I have been in the recruitment industry for 12 years and have owned an agency for the past 4 years.

Over those months people started to mention how good I was at problem solving and a good friend of mine started calling me 'Miss Fix It' and Miss Make It happen'. After a lot of thinking I decided why shouldn't I help others? There is obviously a need for this service and i'm more then capable of delivering it to a high standard.

So what are we and what do we do exactly?
Well, that is down to you. we are what you need us to be...
Social Media Management
Ghost Blogging
PA Services
Recruitment
Event Help
Sales Support
Research / Brainstorming support
and much more....

Why not pop over to our website, facebook page, or twitter account and say hi.

We'd love to hear from you and help with any problems you may have...

Until next time, Take Care

Miss Make It Happen x