Taking the next step.

Lets be honest, I don't care who you are or what you do, what you look like or how successful you or others think you are; Stepping outside of your comfort zone and taking the next step is scary business.

No one really wants to stay stuck in the same place, you all want to move forward and grow but it's hard work and can be terrifying.

MMIH is working behind the scenes to change things for the better - for both us and those around us. We're launching on different social medias, becoming more accessible and also launching our first set of online courses. To the outside world it looks like we're cool, calm, collected but in reality we're working 18 hour days, scared and freaking out.

Thats perfectly normal.

We're about to tread in to the unknown and although it can be scary it's also very exciting. The thing you need to remember when stepping in to the unknown or out of your comfort zone is that you don't need to do it alone. Build a squad of people who are your cheerleaders but that will also kick your butt when something isn't right.

I have a fair few people who I talk to about this stuff but I have a core4. These 4 people are privy to the inner depths of my head and I trust them profusely. At the moment, I don't make any decisions without first running it past at least 2 of them. This is not because I don't believe in myself, It's so I can enjoy the process of moving onwards and upwards.

So when you're ready to take the next step please remember
1) It's ok to be scared/excited
2) Believe in yourself, you're great!
3) Prepare the squad - Even King Arthur had his knights.
4) Just take the step!

It's just turned spring - What a better time to grow as a person or business?!

Until Next Time,
Keep smiling, It's going to be ok.
Miss Make It Happen

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Take the step in to the unknown. 

Peaks and Valleys

I've been self employed 6 years this year. I took the big leap in 2010 and to say I haven't looked back, would be a lie.

I've looked back at the comfort blanket of PAYE on many occasions. The guaranteed wages, the set routine, the sick pay, holiday pay, office parties and work/family unit, some one to be accountable to, other than myself.

This last 10 days has been particularly tricky. I'm usually an optimist. I try not to look for problems or the bad in situations. There are no problems, just pending solutions. This week my little world went in to free fall, through no fault of my own. Sh*t started to hit the fan in my business and personal life. I knew who I could turn to but instead I rolled up like a hedgehog and hoped it would go away. I planned a pity party for one and I wanted to hibernate.

Thankfully I have some amazing friends, they sensed what was going on and rather than joining the pity party and feeding me chocolate, they put on their boots and aimed them at my behind. Within 12 hours I had gone from hibernating hedgehog to Sonic the hedgehog. I still had problems but I now also had ideas, solutions and 2 absolutely amazing opportunities. One as a writer and another from a Radio station.

I'm a big believer that things really do happen for a reason. My life had to start to fall apart so I could be pushed out of my comfort zone, change things and see the opportunities that I'd actually been creating for myself. Granted the two big opportunities were offered from outside influences but it was my hard work with my blog and podcast that got me noticed in the first place.

If things are starting to free fall in your world, please don't do what I tried to do. Embrace the change and look for the bright side and opportunities. You don't have to receive them from outside influences, you can use this time to try some thing new, launch a product, change your master plan. Things are falling apart anyway, you might as well try something risky.

Look forward to catching up with you soon
Until then,
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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Take the leap, it could lead to success. 

Second Chances

I'm not usually one for second chances. I am however one to hold a life long grudge, even if it's to my own detriment. It's not a quality that I admire in myself and to be honest i'm working on changing my outlook on chances and grudges.

I think i'm going soft in my old age. That or i've just started to realise that not everyone is perfect like me, and you might just make mistakes every now and then ;) My gramps was one for a grudge. If you got put on his naughty list, you stayed there. If i'm honest, I think I might have got it from him. I've got a lot of myself from my Gramps.

So, back to second chances. Recently, I was put in a position that made me think and question my own reasoning. A long time ago I put my trust into someone and I got burned. It was bad enough that my friends also carried the burden too. Years later our paths crossed again and I realised how much of a grudge I was carrying. I also realised 2 other things. 1) How heavy this burden had been to carry for all these years and 2) how much I didn't want it any more. I was done with the grudge, the hate and if i'm honest, I wanted this person back in to my life.

A friend of mine had recently lost her husband, someone who I considered a friend too. Scrap that, they always have and always will be like family to me. It made me realise, at least reinforced, my belief that life is too short. So we made the decision there and then, after visiting J's grave, that I would contact the person and we'd talk it through. Before we met up, I contacted the friends that were there to pick up the pieces the first time. It wasn't a great conversation but they agreed that it was my choice and whatever happened they had my back.

I also carried out a basic online survey. 50% of people said Yes, They give second chances. 14% said Nope and 36% said it depended on the situation. Thats 86% of people who would give, or at least consider giving someone a second chance. I was a bit shocked it was so high.

So, I bit the bullet and hoped I wasn't about to make another big mistake. Turns out there really are 3 sides to every story and after long discussions, honesty and a bit of a laugh the past was finally buried and boy does it feel good.

I'll be making a conscious effort to spot the grudges i've been holding for too long from now on. I'll either talk to the person or just let them go.

No one wakes up in the morning and decides they'll intentionally hurt someone. sometimes a mistake is just a mistake. Surely, everyone deserves a second chance?

I'd love to hear your thoughts on second chances.

As Always,
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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It's not always an attack

Did you know that it's not always a racist, sexist, homophobic, religious attack?

Some people are just arseholes and deserve a kick in the butt!

Why on earth do we always have to look for an excuse for someone being bad? Maybe the man or woman is just a bad person. It has nothing to do with their race, religion, colour or geographical location.

We all know - White men can't jump or every black guy is going to mug your gran, right? wrong!

We've started to build these stupid social stereotypes that make everyone seem the same as their similar looking counterpart.

I'm from East London. In my little corner of London we joke that if you're 30, have a job and no kids, then you are weird. Jeez, If you hit 20 without getting knocked up you're doing well. It's not the greatest of places any more but wow, does it come with a lot of history.

Anyway, back to my point. Why do we need to put people in to a group before hating on them? It is our stupidity of doing this that allows our media to scare monger. If you sit and think for 2 seconds before declaring all Muslims terrorists, you'll realise how ridiculous it all sounds.

Lets all make a pact right now, if someone is an arse - you can say mean stuff. If they are not - Then don't. Actually, don't be mean to anyone, it only fuels their idiotic behaviour and creates ripple effects for other people.

If we're all nice, the world will improve. Not only for us, but for future generations.

Think before you start to tar people with the same brush. Not all white people support the KKK, not all germans are nazis, Not all muslims are terrorists, etc etc - you get the picture. If you have to judge, judge a person on their direct relationship to how they treat YOU.

Until next time
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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You're not always right.

On Tuesday 26th January I had an accident. Well, technically I  had two related accidents.

Firstly, A car door slammed shut on my head in a wind related accident. Then after a 4 hour journey home, I got in to bed and knocked myself out for 14 hours by hitting my head on a wall.

For the next few days I just got on with the headache. A few friends asked me to go to the hospital as I wasn't getting better and they were worried due to me being epileptic. I knew best, I was fine... I don't need the hospital.

7 days in, I was still not myself and I cannot shift the headache. I ended up in hospital being passed between nurses and doctors for 7 hours. 5 hours in and we're pretty sure it's a bad case of concussion until two doctors decide to to swap notes or whatever doctors do.

"I've just spoken to the the doctor you've just seen and we need to get you up to have a CT scan ASAP."

*confused look from me* at this stage I thought I was on my way home.

"For the possible bleed on your brain".

oh.

Within 30 minutes I had my head in a CT scanner and was willing my brain to be ok. It already goes through enough and neither of us need this.

Luckily, my scans came back clear for any bleeding and I was sent home with the diagnosis of bad concussion that I can expect to be reminded of for a while yet.

The point i'm trying to make is - I was wrong not listening to my friends. It's quite scary to think that if I had had a bleed on the brain, I could have been left a lot worse off than a concussion.

When people are offering you advice, think to yourself WHY they are. Sometimes, just sometimes they could be doing it for the right reason, because they care and who knows...it could save your life

On that happy note
Until Next Time
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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Ask the questions.

Can you....?

Do you.....?

Will you....? 

Simple questions, right? Wrong. 

When we're in a situation where we feel threatened or scared of the outcome we can start to stress out. These simple questions then become a nightmare to ask. We probably deserve the answers to make our lives easier but we find the situation so difficult. 

Lets break things down...

You want to know the answer to something. Whats the weather going to be like (easy), What dress size is your friend? (little more awkward), How do you feel about me? (Everyone go in to hiding! quick, run)

It really is simple. To get the answers -YOU MUST ASK THE QUESTIONS!

Sometimes the unknown can be harder to handle than the truth. We could be going to an outside show, buying someone a gift or embarking on a new relationship. not knowing the answers can literally drive a person to distraction and insanity. 

I know its hard but sometimes we need to just ask the questions. The not knowing will always be harder to handle than the truth. For you see, the unknown is a bit like the universe - no ending, a lot of theories and no one can hear you when you scream. With the truth it is either good, bad or ugly but at least you can come up with a solution to the answer, accept it and move on with a smile or a tear. 

Whatever situation you find yourself in - You deserve to know the truth. This will help you plan for the future.

Enough waffle. 

catch you all later,

Miss Make It Happen xxx

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Haven't done one of these blog things for a while

This will be my first blog of 2015. It's June.

I've not been lazy or anything like that, In fact, quite the opposite. I'm writing a book, to be released later in 2015 and every time I have a good idea for a blog i realise that it would make a great part of the book. Dilemma! So, I decided to focus on the book. Truth is, It was a massive mistake. 

By not blogging, I started to reduce my reach and audience. The same reach and audience who will, hopefully,  buy the book later in the year. This got me thinking a little further. What other compromises have cost me my goal or taken me in the wrong direction??

Choosing outfits, choosing friends, what to eat, to take on that new client or not? Every choice we make we not only gain something, we sacrifice something too. 

Now what??

I decided to go back to basics. Discover what my goals and values are. Now i have those clear in my head I can make the right decisions, not what I THINK are the right decisions. I'm not a simple person, I have actually been known to have more than one 'clever cookie' moment and i've now realised that sometimes you don't need to make a choice, you can have the best of both words. 

Great news for you lot. You get me blogging AND you get a book at the end of the year. 

*Cue screams of terror and people burning their laptops all over the world*

The moral of this rather oddly written blog is that

1) You need to know who you are and where you're going to make the best decisions

2) Sometimes you don't have to choose - you can have it all

3) Cookies are yummy. 

Until next time...

Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

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