It Feels Like I've Known You Forever...

Two things happened to me yesterday that really stood out.

Firstly, I met up with an old friend who I haven't spoken to for over a year. We'd had a falling out some time back and we were meeting to build bridges. When I saw him, it felt like the past had never happened. We were meant to be friends and be involved in each others lives. Life is too short to hold grudges and keep people in the dog house. Turns out we'd been absent from each others lives during a massive turning point for both of us. If we had stayed friends would we have helped each other or been a hindrance, who knows? The important point is we were now talking again. Unfortunately, we only had about 90 minutes to catch up but in that time I couldn't help stare at my friend. His smile, his animated hand gestures, his passion for his work. He'd been through a lot and he was now happy. In fact, we were both happy. It didn't matter what happened in the past, My friend was happy and that's the important part. I'm happy for him. (Lots of 'Happy' in those last few sentences, did you pick up on that?)
If you are holding a grudge against an old friend, ask yourself this - If they died tomorrow, would you feel sad / miss them? If the answer is yes, pick up the phone and make amends. My friendship was salvaged because I received a text message that simply said 'I Miss You'. Do something today, before it's too late.

Secondly, I had a dinner booked. 2 of the people I knew and had previously met before, and the 3rd I had only ever spoken to on social media. We'd talked a lot and got to know each other but I was somewhat surprised how natural our friendship was after meeting for the first time. It was as if we'd known each other for years. Never underestimate the importance of building relationships over social media.Not everyone is a keyboard warrior / stalker / rapist. It really takes the awkwardness out of initial meetings!

Until Next Time,
Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

www.MissMakeItHappen.co.uk
www.twitter.com/MIH_Dee

Enough is enough

Everyone has a tipping point.

You know the point where you snap, can't take a situation anymore and you say 

"ENOUGH IS ENOUGH"

You don't need to feel bad about giving up on someone or something. If I'm honest, it's probably kinder if you do. Let the person fend for themselves without you picking up the pieces.

Don't get me wrong, if your friend or family member is stuck in a series of unfortunate events then yes, of course you're going to be there for them for however long it takes. I'm talking about the neg heads who refuse to walk away from a bad situation, or keep going back to a situation that is wrong. 

YOU CANNOT HELP THEM! 

It doesn't matter how hard you want them to change they're not going to. They constantly let you down and they can swear until they are blue in the face that they won't do it again but you know deep down that it's only a matter of time. 

By protecting them and picking up the pieces you can be doing more harm then good. Believe me, I'm talking from first hand experience. I don't just mean harming them. Your actions of protecting them can also lead to your relationships breaking down. Well meaning friends and family will tell you to walk away yet every time you stay to pick up more pieces, people start to wash their hands of you. You then become the problem. 

It's ok to walk away from people and situations. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. It means you tried and now you understand that some people are beyond any normal help. It'll be hard but your life will be a lot happier. 

So yes, I'm giving you permission to let go. 

Right now you're probably thinking 'who the hell does she think she is' but you'll thank me later. 

This life is YOURS. It's time to live it for YOU, not anybody else. 

Until next time, keep smiling.

Miss Make It Happen

www.MissMakeItHappen.co.uk

Twitter.com/MIH_Dee