When nothing goes right....

....Fuck it off and drink prosecco.

I've been having 'one of those weeks' (for the past month) where although the world wasn't coming to an end, everything seemed to be going wrong at first or taking longer than expected. My energy levels were zapped and I just couldn't be arsed.

I kept telling myself 'it's ok, it'll pass' but after a few days I decided to think about the WHY. why was I feeling down? why did I have no energy? why had my get up and go, got up and fucked off? Finally my immune system crashed and I ended up in hospital (again! Lolz)

So what caused it?
1 - Bad Sleep
2 - Bad Diet
3 - Negative environment
4 - Negative People

I figured out what was wrong and I had to do something about it.

Bad Sleep - I started to make sure i was in bed by midnight - even if i wasn't asleep, i was still resting my body. Midnight for me is practically lunchtime, i'm used to going to bed at between 2 and 4am recently. Jet lag and Flu simultaneously really messed up my sleep patterns and I just couldn't get back to normal - That was the end of October!

Bad Diet - I'd been forgetting to eat and when I finally got round to it I was either too tired, too lazy or too busy to stand in the kitchen cooking for 30-60 minutes. I love cooking so this really isn't me. This ultimately meant i'd spent the majority of the month starving, eating rubbish or take aways. I started to make a conscious effort to eat and to not be lazy and actually cook food but with Christmas it was really hard. impossible. I haven't been good and have put on half a stone in 3 weeks!

Negative environment -  Well this is embarrassing but lets get it out there anyway... my bedroom looked like a clothes grenade had gone off. Piles of clean clothes that needed to be put away, basket full of dirty washing, 6 half empty water bottles on my bed side cabinet, an empty bottle of fizz in my shoe box (long story),  and a half empty suitcase that i hadn't had time to organise. My home office looked like a bomb had gone off in a stationery cupboard with a few clothes related casualties thrown in for measure. chuck in a box of 'to be sorted' stuff and a cup of half drunk tea and you're beginning to get a picture of why my environment was toxic... I spent the best part of a day sorting through both rooms and all the cupboards. I'm now pleased to say that my environment is now light and flowy.

Negative people - I love talking to people, scrap that, I love listening to people. I'll always make time for people in my life to hear what is going on in their lives - Good or Bad. I have certain times of the week where I have 'catch up' meetings with certain people. I will happily sit there for hours or days helping people sort out their problems but I recently realised that some people just don't want to help themselves. These people were destroying my mood and zapping my energy. These people had to be told and had to be removed from my close circles. As Brad Burton once said - "You need to put your own oxygen mask on first".

If you're feeling down or can't be arsed any more. have a look at what's happening in your life and what you can do to change it. It won't happen over night but in a months time you'll be pleased you started today rather than leaving it another week or so. Plus what better time to start again than the New Year!

You'll have to make some selfish decisions but that won't make you a selfish person.
It might be hard but i guarantee it'll be worth it.

Do It For YOU! Do it for an amazing 2016

Until next time
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

Facebookers - Twitterz

Just believe in yourself a little more.

"It makes me sad that some people don't see how truly great they are and how they've made so many people happy by what they do." - a recent Facebook status i wrote on my private page. 

I'd spent the day with a truly remarkable gentleman. Someone who for years, along with other family members, had followed his work and was honoured enough to meet many years later. I'm now lucky enough to call him a friend, someone I trust and someone I like having in my life.

After a couple of hours of telling each other we don't push ourselves to our full potential it dawned on me that this person, someone who I admired before I even met, someone who is known to many people, who has given and sacrificed - has the same problem as me! From my side of the fence, if he agrees or not i'm not sure, we are both a little lost. 

Now, we know where we need to get to, or where we'd like to be. We know we have the strength to do it. We have the profile / platforms / contacts to help us. There is just something we're missing or we've lost sight of. We're going on the hunt. 

I think this applies to a lot of people in general. We might be scared of success, of failure, of trying or some other excuse but our main obstacles we put in our own way are made by us. It's easy for us to build an obstacle on our own, as humans we're great at that but I can tell you now, you're going to need back up to help pull those obstacles down. 

My suggestion - build a team. people who you can really trust, people who know and understand you and all your strengths, weaknesses and quirks. Go out with a, metaphorically speaking, sledge hammer and go smash your way to success.

My friend and I are doing that next year. The rest of 2015 will be used to plot, plan and scheme. We're going to help push and make each other accountable. I'm looking forward to seeing what happens, even if it does involve getting a size 9 boot up my arse. 

Until Next Time
Be You
Miss Make It Happen

Come say Hi on Facebook & The Twitterz

  

Do you need to be liked?

It recently come to my attention that I no longer care if people like me. 

There was a time where I'd walk in to a room of people and I felt I needed every one to be my "friend". I was shy and charming in the hope that people would talk to me. I needed to feel accepted. A lot has changed in the last year and now, I couldn't give two hoots if 1 person likes me. 

So what's caused this dramatic change? Me, my self confidence and realising that other people don't define who I am or how I should behave. This change has improved my life to such an extent that I'm now a lot happier. 

No one should feel like they need to fit in. The world is made up of very different people, no two are the same so why should we hide our true identity? We should celebrate our differences.

Growing up I was a shining light. I was the girl with multi-coloured hair, had an opinion on everything and I pushed the limits of society. I had top grades, I was an ambassador of my school and I was part of every sport team going. I had enough friends to start an army and I was happy. Then work and ex boyfriends sucked the life out of me. I was turning in to a "yes girl" and a "wife". I needed to please people. I didn't want to upset anyone. I dressed how I was told, acted like a good little girl and had no opinions. My bosses controlled me, my partners controlled me and I let it happen. 

Fast forward to 2011 and I bought a book. "Get Off Your Arse". It ignited a spark inside me. Something that I hadn't felt in a long long time. The real me was poking her head out again. I loved this feeling, people around me didn't. I ended up turning my life upside down, giving it a good shake and disposing of all the pieces. This included a 6 year relationship. Over the next 2 years I started to find myself and rebuild things. Do you know what happened? After I'd got the negativity, nervous break down and self pity out the way, I blossomed. I lost 3 stone, dyed my hair bright pink / red, started a second company, whilst helping and inspiring others to do the same. 

As Brendan Johnson, of Authentic Spirit (www.authenticspirit.co.uk) said "My AWESOMNESS is not dependent on anyone else's approval or permission. You can catch him on twitter @Rev_BJohnson for more words of wisdom and beardy pictures. He's a legend. 

The moral of this story is - you can only do your best and be the best if you are true to who you are. You are unique so start acting like it. At any given time you are the perfect version of who you are meant to be at that time.... If you are true to yourself. 

Now I'm not telling you all to leave your partners, turn your worlds upside and start partying every weekend. All I'm saying is, you get one chance at this life, spend it being you. The YOU that YOU want to be. If you want to dye your hair green, do it. If you want to wear speedos on the beach, do it. If you want to laugh at inappropriate times, do it. Make yourself happy. The people who matter don't care, The people who care don't matter. 

When you start accepting who the real you is, so will everyone else. If they don't then they don't need to be in your life. BE BRAVE, BE YOU.

Until next time... Keep smiling, you're perfect. 

Miss Make It Happen

www.MissMakeItHappen.co.uk

@MIH_Dee