I. AM. ME.

To my family I am someone. To my friends I am another. 

I wear many hats and I am one person. 

I can be loving, I can be an arsehole. 

I can be moody, I can be hilarious. 

I am a rock, I crumble. 

I've had my heart broken in times of weakness, I have picked up the pieces in times of strength. 

I am charitable, I hate sharing. 

I'm a good person, I am a bad person. 

I am a lover, I am a fighter

I've been proud of myself and i've been ashamed

I've done great things and things I wish I could forget

I like to be alone, i like to be the centre of attention. 

I like people to think I have a heart of stone,  I just want to be cuddled and loved. 

I will hold your hand in times of trouble whilst looking away to hide my own tears. 

I sacrifice for others, I am selfish

I am the definition of contradiction. 

I am....a lot of things, I am one thing. I. AM. ME. 

through all my strengths, weaknesses, pros, cons, successes and failures, I try to be true to me. 

I am Dee 

xXx

Ask the questions.

Can you....?

Do you.....?

Will you....? 

Simple questions, right? Wrong. 

When we're in a situation where we feel threatened or scared of the outcome we can start to stress out. These simple questions then become a nightmare to ask. We probably deserve the answers to make our lives easier but we find the situation so difficult. 

Lets break things down...

You want to know the answer to something. Whats the weather going to be like (easy), What dress size is your friend? (little more awkward), How do you feel about me? (Everyone go in to hiding! quick, run)

It really is simple. To get the answers -YOU MUST ASK THE QUESTIONS!

Sometimes the unknown can be harder to handle than the truth. We could be going to an outside show, buying someone a gift or embarking on a new relationship. not knowing the answers can literally drive a person to distraction and insanity. 

I know its hard but sometimes we need to just ask the questions. The not knowing will always be harder to handle than the truth. For you see, the unknown is a bit like the universe - no ending, a lot of theories and no one can hear you when you scream. With the truth it is either good, bad or ugly but at least you can come up with a solution to the answer, accept it and move on with a smile or a tear. 

Whatever situation you find yourself in - You deserve to know the truth. This will help you plan for the future.

Enough waffle. 

catch you all later,

Miss Make It Happen xxx

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The 'C' Word.

We're not talking cunt here.

Nope, it's a whole lot worse than that.

It's CHRISTMAS in September.

You'll all know how I like to keep my blogs strictly professional and rant free (LOL) but this is a god damn fucking joke.

We all know that i'm not a christmas fan but when people start pushing it in my face from September all I want to do is track them down, smash them in to the floor and beat them to death with a double ended dildo. Seriously, DO NOT PUSH ME PEOPLE!

We've got approximately 3 god damn months between now and the season of debt, guilt and commercialisation. These 3 months include MY BIRTHDAY, halloween, and bonfire night. All 3 of which are, in my opinion, much more fun.

The big fat judgemental bastard in a red suit isn't due for about 99 days (so FB friends keep telling me) so lets drop the shit and focus on the now. We live but once so lets not rush through the next 3 months in a blur of red and green tinsel.

If you really must start to get excited early then please remember those who are not quite as fortunate. When you're out planning what to eat, what to wear, what to buy for presents, why not stop and plan to help one of the 000's of homeless military personnel, a disadvantaged child or someone else who doesn't quite see christmas through the same haze of warm food, family hugs and fairy lights.

Look closely through your FB friend list and think hard. The likelihood is there are parents on there that are already starting to worry because they're not going to be able to give their children the things they desire. There will be people on there that will spend christmas alone and there will be people crippled by debt just to 'keep up with the jones' '.

Well my grinch-ness has come out early this year. rant over. you may all get back on with your lives.

Just remember - Don't be a cunt this christmas, think of others.

Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

Dee xx

It never rains, It Pours.

Life is hard.

You'll be plodding along one minute and the next thing you know 3 family/friends have died, you get bitten by a spider, and you're forced to go to the gym, you lose your only pair of contact lenses and the hospital want to 'Keep an eye on that'.  Oh! and I have no kitchen or bathroom due to building works at my house. Its been a busy fortnight.

All in all, i'm a pretty positive and strong person. I try not to get bothered by much and I'm great at keeping a cool head in stressful situations. This last fortnight has been different. I'd had enough, given up and wanted to be left alone.

Over the last couple of weeks i've realised a few things -
1) I'm not as hard as I make out
2) I value company just as much as I value alone time
3) Crying helps
4) No one lives forever
5) It's ok to take time out when you need it.

When all of the above happened in quick succession it was hard to cope. what do I focus on? How can I be positive and sad? What's the point?
I'll be lying if I said I took it on the chin and carried on. Half the time I did, The other half I hid under a blanket on the sofa and watched Disney movies or some random tear -jerker.

The point to this rambling pity party for one is -

Life will throw you curve balls. Stand strong, focus and hit that M*ther F*cker out of the park.
Just do it when you're ready.

I'm lucky to have a second to none support network, the ones that knew what was going on were amazing. They left me alone but dropped in from time to time with a little wave, a story, a random picture of their dinner or just a nudge. (Thank you Guys and Girls - You know who you are xx)

So, if life is throwing you multiple curve balls at the minute and you think you can't cope, Just give yourself a break, hide behind a blanket and come back fighting when you are ready.

You've got this - YOU CAN DO IT.

Much Love
Dee
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My friend invited me over for the weekend for a few days of fun, Fizz and hot tub madness.

We're currently sat at a table, at 10:30pm, both in front of our computers, talking to each other.... on FACEBOOK! seriously, has the world gone mad, or it is just us?

We've been so sucked in to being 'social' that we've forgotten what the word actually means. Naturally, I thought i would correct our bad ways and erm... write this blog.

A friend of mine likes 'digital down time' and is currently on a week long 'digital detox'. I seriously take my hat off to him. I tried it once and if i'm honest after about 6 hours I would have happily given my right leg to gain access to the bitter sweet world that is social media. You can read his blog HERE

The very thing that is making our world connected and smaller is in actual fact destroying our actual conversation and 1-2-1 human interaction.

You've no doubt heard this rant before from someone else so i'll spare you anymore blah blah blah but answer me this...

Could you do 24hours (or longer) without any digital interaction?

Comment below or tweet me @MIH_Dee and let me know. If you say you can, lets set ourselves a challenge. losers donate £$ to charity. Are you in?

Much Love
Dee
Miss Make It Happen.

London - The Greatest City In The World.

There - I've said it. London is the greatest city on Earth.

I've lived in London all my life and I love it. I live in greater (east) London so I still get the buzz but i'm far enough out so i get some trees and grass scattered around me. I'm about 13 miles from the centre.

It came to my attention a couple of years ago that even though i like to travel abroad and all over the UK, i was still a tourist in my own city. So now I spend more time looking around and seeing London for it really is.

At the weekend it was my friends birthday. We decided that we'd wait until the Monday and have a day out. We went to a great little cafe in West London for Afternoon Tea and Fizz. It was a great start to the day. If you fancy afternoon tea at the Urban Meadow Cafe click HERE. Great selection of tea, cakes and sandwiches.

Next up we decided to take a walk through the park. As we entered the gate we came across the Santander Hire Bikes - AKA Boris Bikes. Neither of us had been on a bike since we were kids so we decided to give it a go. For £2 you get full 24 hour access. Neither of us are gym bunnies but we really enjoyed it and 6 miles later we were in SE.London ready for our evening entertainment. I was rather impressed that i didn't get squashed by a bus although there was a moment that I lost my cool with a Ferrari.

Just up the road from Borough there is a little shop that opens up out back to the most wonderful cinema EVER! Click HERE to learn more about Roxy Bar and Screen. you start off in a bar and then through some thick red, velvet curtains you're taken to the main cinema room. Instead of chairs there are rows on sofas and instead of popcorn you are served dinner (3 yummy courses in our case) direct to your lap. They only show one film per night so check them out before you.

We biked back to Tower of London after the film and just as we were crossing the big junction, my knee gave way. A re-occuring injury decided to raise its ugly head. game over on the bike front but still a great day all in all.

If you're ever in London, please make sure you stop and look around. Don't seek out the main attractions, look in to the back streets and that's where you'll find the real gems.

Much Love
Dee
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Haven't done one of these blog things for a while

This will be my first blog of 2015. It's June.

I've not been lazy or anything like that, In fact, quite the opposite. I'm writing a book, to be released later in 2015 and every time I have a good idea for a blog i realise that it would make a great part of the book. Dilemma! So, I decided to focus on the book. Truth is, It was a massive mistake. 

By not blogging, I started to reduce my reach and audience. The same reach and audience who will, hopefully,  buy the book later in the year. This got me thinking a little further. What other compromises have cost me my goal or taken me in the wrong direction??

Choosing outfits, choosing friends, what to eat, to take on that new client or not? Every choice we make we not only gain something, we sacrifice something too. 

Now what??

I decided to go back to basics. Discover what my goals and values are. Now i have those clear in my head I can make the right decisions, not what I THINK are the right decisions. I'm not a simple person, I have actually been known to have more than one 'clever cookie' moment and i've now realised that sometimes you don't need to make a choice, you can have the best of both words. 

Great news for you lot. You get me blogging AND you get a book at the end of the year. 

*Cue screams of terror and people burning their laptops all over the world*

The moral of this rather oddly written blog is that

1) You need to know who you are and where you're going to make the best decisions

2) Sometimes you don't have to choose - you can have it all

3) Cookies are yummy. 

Until next time...

Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

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