Looking for my inner child.

I think, that to become and stay happy adults we need to hold on to our inner child.

You know the one, the little voice that tells you to do something cheeky or mischievous. The one that you spend all day dismissing because "Thats not what an adult should be doing". The one that tempts you and the one you ignore.

A child, be it inner or actual, will only try for your attention for so long before it gets bored and wanders off. It's my belief that if you don't give your inner child attention this is when you start to struggle in adulthood. Children have no fear so if you get rid of that part of you, you'll struggle with all sorts of decision and mischief making.

Last year I started to push my inner child away. I spend about 6 months feeling unhappy and I couldn't figure out why. I was conforming to society and it was making me down right miserable. This year i've lured that inner child out again with the promise of more fun. Because I plan on having fun doesn't make me any less an adult, or business person for that matter. So, as a new year present for me i bought a set of Bauer Quads (see picture below). When I was 14-15 I used to be glued into my Bauer Turbo quads and to be fair, I was pretty good with the whole stunts and street hockey thing. Fast forward 15+ years and i'm standing in a car park wondering what the F i'm doing and should I actually go through with a leisurely roll.

Luckily for me, the inner child rocked up and I was off. The first 5-10minutes was pretty touch and go but I stayed up right and I was off for a 3 mile roll with my friend, Nikki. We stayed up right and managed a top speed of 14mph and didn't fall over once. #ProudAdultMoment. After my epic win (to me anyway) I was full of beans. I came home, had a roast dinner, followed by a homemade Gin and Lime slush puppy (hit me up for the recipe) then I hit Mondays To Do list.

Going back to my childhood passion really made me happy and in turn really helped with my productivity. Why not let your inner child out this week and have some fun. Who knows - It might help you become happy.

Until Next Time
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Don't believe the hype. especially your own.

It's Monday 11th January 2016 (As I am writing this)

We no longer have to say Happy New Year to EVERYONE we speak to.

I woke up with a headache.

It's raining

And It's just been announced that David Bowie has passed away after fighting cancer for 18 months.

I'm not one who will usually buy in to the whole "OMG, Celebrity X has died, how sad" blah blah blah. Yet the news about Bowie got me thinking. His part in the film Labyrinth gave me a place to escape when I was younger and, if i'm honest, I still use the film as a way of escape now (I'm 31!).

Watching my timeline it's quite nice to see all the song lyrics, film quotes and pictures popping up. Bowie was a household name yet he never seemed to feed off of 'celebrity'. He was a household name and he was also a person. Something that celebrities today seem to loose on their way to stardom.

I think we can learn from Bowie here. When we're out there looking, working and fighting for success and making a name for ourselves, We must remember not to lose ourselves in the search for the stardust that is success and celebrity. Don't lose yourself amongst every other Tom, Dick or Harry. Reach for the stars but keep your feet on the floor. None of us are getting out alive but we can get out with some sort of dignity.

Ground Control to Major Tom - He's coming home. RIP Bowie.

Until Next Time
Miss Make It Happen
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#SupportOurTroops - Past and present.

It's no secret that i'm a supporter of all things uniform. Our emergency services and military are, in my opinion, amazeballs. So it's probably no surprise that i've been following the news recently about a certain military based story that has got peoples tongues wagging.

THIS IS WHAT IS GOING ON

 

This story has got Civvies and Military Personnel alike a little bit hot under the collar. Now you can make up your own mind about this and we are all entitled to an opinion (as long as you agree with me, we can stay friends). The main reason for this newsletter was, if by any chance,  any of the people involved may happen to read this then you should know a few things;

(This information comes from a friend of mine, who happens to be an RAF Vet.)

For the guys facing investigation. Further advice via ex-Police ex-Redcap sites. 

1) Ignore any letters. They have NO relevance in law.

2) Do not under any circumstances attend any place or office if requested. If they want you, let them arrest you and a whole new ball game opens up.

3) If arrested say nothing - request a lawyer.

4) Whoever arrests you has 24 hrs to charge or release you.

5) A tactic may be to bail you 'pending further enquiries' if this happens make an immediate complaint against arresting officer. This is a 'historic enquiry' so what further enquiries are necessary?

6). Make a Freedom of Information demand to the MOD for the identity of the complainant and, more importantly, if the complainant is or was a paid intelligence source. This will really f*** them up because, even if there was a sniff of a case, they would have to drop it. 

Help us protect our troops. 

Please share this information across your networks. 

Much Love

Miss Make It Happen

When nothing goes right....

....Fuck it off and drink prosecco.

I've been having 'one of those weeks' (for the past month) where although the world wasn't coming to an end, everything seemed to be going wrong at first or taking longer than expected. My energy levels were zapped and I just couldn't be arsed.

I kept telling myself 'it's ok, it'll pass' but after a few days I decided to think about the WHY. why was I feeling down? why did I have no energy? why had my get up and go, got up and fucked off? Finally my immune system crashed and I ended up in hospital (again! Lolz)

So what caused it?
1 - Bad Sleep
2 - Bad Diet
3 - Negative environment
4 - Negative People

I figured out what was wrong and I had to do something about it.

Bad Sleep - I started to make sure i was in bed by midnight - even if i wasn't asleep, i was still resting my body. Midnight for me is practically lunchtime, i'm used to going to bed at between 2 and 4am recently. Jet lag and Flu simultaneously really messed up my sleep patterns and I just couldn't get back to normal - That was the end of October!

Bad Diet - I'd been forgetting to eat and when I finally got round to it I was either too tired, too lazy or too busy to stand in the kitchen cooking for 30-60 minutes. I love cooking so this really isn't me. This ultimately meant i'd spent the majority of the month starving, eating rubbish or take aways. I started to make a conscious effort to eat and to not be lazy and actually cook food but with Christmas it was really hard. impossible. I haven't been good and have put on half a stone in 3 weeks!

Negative environment -  Well this is embarrassing but lets get it out there anyway... my bedroom looked like a clothes grenade had gone off. Piles of clean clothes that needed to be put away, basket full of dirty washing, 6 half empty water bottles on my bed side cabinet, an empty bottle of fizz in my shoe box (long story),  and a half empty suitcase that i hadn't had time to organise. My home office looked like a bomb had gone off in a stationery cupboard with a few clothes related casualties thrown in for measure. chuck in a box of 'to be sorted' stuff and a cup of half drunk tea and you're beginning to get a picture of why my environment was toxic... I spent the best part of a day sorting through both rooms and all the cupboards. I'm now pleased to say that my environment is now light and flowy.

Negative people - I love talking to people, scrap that, I love listening to people. I'll always make time for people in my life to hear what is going on in their lives - Good or Bad. I have certain times of the week where I have 'catch up' meetings with certain people. I will happily sit there for hours or days helping people sort out their problems but I recently realised that some people just don't want to help themselves. These people were destroying my mood and zapping my energy. These people had to be told and had to be removed from my close circles. As Brad Burton once said - "You need to put your own oxygen mask on first".

If you're feeling down or can't be arsed any more. have a look at what's happening in your life and what you can do to change it. It won't happen over night but in a months time you'll be pleased you started today rather than leaving it another week or so. Plus what better time to start again than the New Year!

You'll have to make some selfish decisions but that won't make you a selfish person.
It might be hard but i guarantee it'll be worth it.

Do It For YOU! Do it for an amazing 2016

Until next time
Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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Dreams and Tomorrows

We've all been guilty of putting things off and using the phrase "i'll do it tomorrow..." but just like "i'll start the diet on Monday..." - Tomorrow never comes.

When I was 13 years old my Nannie was diagnosed with cancer. It was a massive blow for the family as the original diagnosis was sore throat and an ear ache. Within a year we'd gone from smiles to funerals. She was such a beautiful kind soul and was taken way in her early 50s.

My Grandad, who has always been my hero, gave up work to care for my Nannie. He was such a hard working man and even at my young age I could tell how much he loved my Nannie. Fast forward 12 years and i'm sitting on the sofa with Gramps telling him i'm going to start my own business. Everyone else told me I was mad, asked if I was scared or were not sure if i was serious. My Gramps on the other hand told me that I had a big decision to make - Would I be the boss who was a friend or not... Because once I made up my mind this would be the basis of my career. The way I treated others would lay out my future. The guy was a genius. During the same conversation he told me that he was proud of me. I had to try not to cry. He then explained that when he was younger he always dreamed of opening his own construction company but for reasons I won't say here, he never "got round to it". I could tell that he was so happy that i'd decided to follow the dream he never did. At the end of the conversation he offered me access to what would be my inheritance. I took £300 and headed off in to the hard world of self employment.

Sadly my Grandad passed away in 2012, at the age of 70, never realising his full potential or achieving his dreams. I vowed that I would never do the same. For myself and for him.

My Nannie was taken away young - A massive reminder that our tomorrows are not guaranteed.
My Grandad lived with regret at not following his dream - A huge reminder that we are here only once and we should make the mistakes, take the risks and do the things we want to do. I was lucky to have an amazing relationship with my Nannie and Gramps and i'll always use them to guide me through life.

Please don't make the same mistakes. Do what you want to do - FOR YOU!
You'll be much happier on your death bed laughing about the time you had to live on baked beans for a month because you took a risk rather than playing it safe. You're also not guaranteed a tomorrow so start living for today. I don't want to depress you all just before xmas but I do want to make you think before you plan your 2016.

Make it count.
Much Love
Dee xx

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The many faces of self-employment

I'm lucky enough to know a lot of people all over the world for various different reasons. Friends, family, work, acquaintances etc etc etc

I want to focus on a rather special breed of people today - The Self Employed.

After a conversation with a good friend of mine recently  (who also happens to be self employed), I got thinking. Ouch.

Out of all the people I know, self employed people wear the most masks. They are the most two faced people on the planet. Now, before you go organising a hate campaign against me, let me explain what I mean.

If an employed person feels ill and they don't go to work the company / team / office cover the job and the world continues turning.
If a self employed person calls in and can't work. hahahahahahahaha sorry that doesn't happen. Self employed people will put on a mask and just get on with it. We're a different breed. If we stop, the world stops with us. or at least our world does. unless we're lucky to have a business partner or the like.

So why do these situations make us two faced? Well the definition of two faced is "someone who is insincere or who acts one way in certain situations and then in a contrary manner in others." (Thanks Google). 
A self employed person will tell you everything in the world is perfect, they'll plaster on a smile, get your work done and soldier on. You'll not see the other side of things where they're exhausted and just haven't got the energy to go on any more. These people will stand at shows and events for 10 hours, smiling at you and making you feel welcome, answer your questions and you wouldn't be able to tell that they are in mental and physical pain, they're exhausted and all they want to do is curl up and sleep.

The self employed don't have the luxury of a clocking off time or a set weekend. Not really. If it seems that way to the outside world it's probably because the self employed person has just pulled a 90 hour week so they could enjoy a rare long weekend. They'll then have to do it all again the following week just to catch up.

I've been thinking about the mask of a self employed person for a very long time and it's nice to see, after talking with other self employed people that i'm "normal". You will not hear me saying that very often.

So, this Christmas season, why not give a self employed person a hug. Because I guarantee they'll need it, even if they are smiling and laughing. They will be wearing a mask, because that's what they do. They will tell you everything is ok - not because they want to lie but it's easier that way.

Much Love
Miss Make It Happen

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Oooops

I was recently let out on my own.

Not just to the shops or out for a walk but to a full 2 days at a show. Running stands and helping with events is part of what I do for a living so all should have been ok. Unfortunately, I seemed to be more organised then was actually needed.

I turned up to the event early. 24 hours early. I called my friend/client who I was working for. yep - 24 hours early. F*CK

 I knew that to any normal person this wouldn't be much of a problem but i'm a professional - This shouldn't have happened. I should know the days of the week, I'm 31 for heavens sake. Rather than try and hide my shame of messing up, I took to social media.

I let the world know what i'd done wrong. It was a release and I didn't feel so stupid. People I know had a few fun digs but overall, no one else cared.

It just goes to show that even though you might think you've made a big mistake, others may not feel the same. Give yourself a break and laugh at your mix ups - no one died and You probably didn't just press the red button and destroy half of mankind.

Live and learn. It's the best way to be.

Until next time
Look after yourself
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